Self Confidence

How Can You Build Your Self Confidence and Self Esteem?

“It’s not what you say out of your mouth that determines your life, it’s what you whisper to yourself that has the most power!”Robert T. Kiosaki

Build Self Confidence - Divine Mind IntsituteWhat do you whisper to yourself?

Are you your own worst critic? Do you respect yourself? Do you respect your achievements? Do you value yourself?

The only one of those questions you should have answered “no” to is the first one.

How you feel about yourself and whether or not you believe in yourself determines your level of self confidence. We’re not talking about your ego, we’re talking about your self- worth, your emotional self image.

Lack of self confidence

When you have low self confidence, you usually focus on weaknesses rather than all the positive things about yourself. You are critical of yourself, you have a more difficult time coping with the challenges of everyday life, and eventually relationships, and your mental and physical health can be effected.

Look outside yourself to determine why your confidence is low, because it usually comes from outside sources:

  • A bad experience
  • Big disappointments
  • NoSelfEsteem-DivineMindInstituteChildhood experiences
    • Harsh and unfair criticism
    • Any type of abuse
    • Being taught that you are a failure if you had failed experiences
    • Being shunned by your peers
  • Traumatic events can leave you feeling you are not in control of your own life, or make you feel that you are to blame for whatever happened.
  • Today’s unrealistic perceptions of what beauty and success looks like makes you doubt yourself and gives you the feeling that no matter what, you can’t measure up.

Your subconscious mind stores all of your experiences, especially from your youth, both positive and negative, it remembers everything you’ve ever heard, seen or done. When this stored data reminds you of strong negative feelings, you feel less about yourself than you really are.

Some of the signs that your lack of self confidence or self esteem has taken over your life:

  • Not being satisfied with your life, always wishing it was better
  • Feeling bored, always tired, hopeless or depressed
  • Feeling you have nothing to look forward to
  • Considering yourself to be a failure
  • Always feeling fearful of making a mistake or of receiving criticism
  • You always feel defensive

How Can hypnosis Help?

Because of the problems that low self-esteem can cause you, it’s so very important that you seek help to keep the long term problems I mentioned above from developing. And due to the fact that low self confidence is rooted in your subconscious mind, hypnosis is the perfect way to get the help you need. It can help you understand your own worth.

Roadblocks to Self Confidence - Divine Mind InstituteIt is your subconscious that determines everything you think, say and do. And because it remembers everything you have ever experienced and how it affected you, it determines what you whisper to yourself, which either builds you up or tears you down.

NLP and Hypnosis are powerful tools that will help you tear down the road blocks that have kept your self image low.

Hypnosis is a peaceful feeling in a safe and relaxing place where you are able to identify what obstacles are keeping you from accepting yourself in a positive way. It can help eliminate the negative self-talk (which will be the topic of a future blog post) that goes on in your head all the time.

Just imagine the wonderful person that you really are!

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Hypnosis and Low Self Esteem

Can Hypnosis Help Low Self Esteem?

Low Self Esteem - Divine Mind InstituteWhat’s wrong with me?

I can’t do anything right!

Why can’t I be like…?

Do you find yourself asking these questions? Or maybe you’re aware that one of your children or another loved one is pretty “hard” on themselves.

As a rule, you are your own worst critic, but when your “inner critic” is too harsh too often, you can end up underachieving, lonely and isolated, your health can suffer and the feeling of hopelessness can take over. You have low self esteem when:

  • Your good points are overlooked
  • You can’t put past mistakes in the past
  • You are unable to handle criticism
  • You are afraid to try new things socially, academically or career-wise
  • To sum it up, your quality of life is negatively affected

Your self esteem – your opinion of yourself and who you are – plays an extremely important part in how you live your life.

What causes low self esteem?

Bullying Promotes Low Self Esteem - Divine Mind InstituteOften it appears in children or adults who grew up in dysfunctional family situations where they may have been abused or neglected. Or maybe they were bullied or picked on in school. It could also be attributed to a non-abusive parent who has low self esteem themselves, and as we all know, children pick up the characteristics and traits of their parents.

But all low self esteem doesn’t come from childhood. Many adults can be faced with traumatic experiences that can cause negative feelings about yourself. They could be caused by:

  • Career problems
  • Financial problems
  • Failed relationships

Facing these types of ┬álife challenges causes us all to take a good hard look at ourselves, and that’s all right. But if too much time is spent dwelling on or obsessing over them, self-confidence begins to suffer and self esteem is lost.

How can Hypnotherapy help?

We are all different, which means the reasons for low self esteem and the approach  to building self esteem is different for everyone. That is why hypnotherapy is a great approach. Each person is assessed individually to connect with who you really are, to develop a greater sense of self, and build greater belief in yourself. It can help you see yourself through different eyes.

Hypnosis is a way of re-educating your subconscious mind so you will be more in control of your life.

Isn’t it time to start your journey to a positive self image and move past the negative?

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