Are You Independent or Codependent?
Beginning in our early childhood, most of us sought to be independent…as our parents can attest when we said “I can do it myself!”
According to Dictionary.com, being independent means we don’t rely on others, we think and act for ourselves.
Of course we realize that in reality, being independent is having good self esteem, being capable and acting upon it. We also realize that none of us are ever totally independent, we need other people around us for many reasons.
On the other hand, the codependent person is someone who has low self-esteem and is typically passive. They usually have a need to care for someone else, but neglect their own needs in the process.
The codependent person
- Is an enabler who feels the need to rescue someone while covering up that person’s behavior.
- Feels they never do enough for others, which leads to feelings of guilt.
- Has possibly been mentally, physically or verbally abused by either a parent, a partner or a spouse,
- Cannot refuse someone else’s plea for help, but has difficulty asking for it themselves.
- Goes to great lengths to avoid confrontation and arguments to maintain peace, they don’t like to “rock the boat”.
- Resists change
- Worries too much about what other people may think of them (low self esteem)
- Is a “pleaser”, always wanting everyone to always be happy.
- Feels inadequate and when they make a mistake they feel badly about themselves.
Where Co-dependence Began
We all started out with a desire to be independent as we tried to show the world we were getting big enough to do things ourselves, but somewhere along the line, usually during childhood, this unhealthy behavior began.
Because you want to correct this negative behavior, it’s important to understand why it started in the first place, something you may have no idea about. This is where hypnotherapy can help you. It is the perfect tool, that communicates with your subconscious, where all your memories are stored, which can help you uncover what in your past triggers this negative behavior.
Hypnosis can also help you begin to love yourself, which will enable you to understand and respect your own needs and begin to take care of yourself. It will help you build your self esteem, giving you the power of assertiveness, interacting with other people in a much healthier way. Although the cycle of abuse may have physically stopped, it still goes on in your head…this can stop!
In short, hypnotherapy will help you take back your life so you can enjoy it!
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